Few things confound parents more than hearing their child has been sexually abused. A million questions race through your mind and you want to ask your child all of them. DON’T! Take a deep breath and stop what you are doing to pay attention to your chi...
Continue ReadingDomestic Violence can be anything from a look to a gunshot. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical injury. Ask anyone who lives with the debilitating effects of manipulation and control. Emotional abuse has been described as the slow and sile...
Continue ReadingI didn’t think you were close to your mom. From what you‘ve told me about your dad, I would think you would be glad he’s dead. Have you ever heard those words spoken to someone whose abusive parent died? Have you used them yourself? It’s natural f...
Continue ReadingLet’s talk about the “F” word for survivors. “FORGIVENESS” is just as offensive a word to most survivors as the real “F” word is to some people because it implies so many erroneous ideas. Once again it puts th...
Continue ReadingIt has been said that when the co-dependent person dies, someone else’s life flashes before their eyes. That pretty well describes it! A co-dependent has trouble recognizing where another person ends and they begin. In order for someone to be co-dep...
Continue ReadingAdult children of alcoholics guess at what normal is. Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end. Adult children of alcoholics lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth. Adult children of al...
Continue ReadingAnger is a valuable emotion but many people feel it is a negative that must be purged from their lives. Anger is intended to be a signal that an injustice has taken place either to yourself or to others. The Bible actually commands us to “Be angry...
Continue ReadingThe Miracle of Easter is not that Christ rose from the grave. He’s God. He can do that. He didn’t need our help or our permission. The real miracle is that God resurrects our lives and brings beauty from ashes. That does, however, require ou...
Continue ReadingTo families everywhere who celebrate this day with memories too personal and too precious for outsiders to share. We all have a mother and everyone’s memories are unique to them alone. We have a day set aside to honor those who not only gave us life...
Continue ReadingThis Father’s Day… I want to pay tribute to those men who stand in the gap for absentee fathers; those who are fathers to the fatherless. I work with a lot of children who do not have a father in their lives. Or worse yet, the fathers are ther...
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